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June 1, 1945

Dart cannot let a new month begin without writing to his sweetheart. There’s not much to write about except the weather, and that can be summed up in a single word: RAIN.

He tells her about the port they’re in now, saying it has a name, but he’s not sure what it is. He only knows it by the obscene and vulgar nicknames the crew has given it. There’s much more land around than there was in the previous base of operations, with more hills, and the vegetation is less tropical. There is no liberty or shore recreation permitted at this location. It happens that this very cove is where they were anchored during May’s full moon. He was able to see the hills backlit by silver and admire the twinkling lights on the calm water. It was beautiful, but he would have preferred being home and watching the full moon with Dot.

Not knowing how long it’ll take for his letter to reach her, he sends birthday greetings now. “It’s about time to wish you a very happy birthday, Darling. This is an occasion for one of those congratulatory kisses (and other kinds, too) that I want to bestow when the time comes. I hope that the coming year will bring you much success and happiness, and that it will bring us ever closer together. If it’ll make you feel happier to be reassured that I love you, then here’s that reassurance: I love you very, very much. Maybe by your twentieth birthday, and from then on, these wishes can be spoken to you.”

It sounds strange to think that she is not quite 19, and may soon be engaged. On the surface, that sounds so young, yet anyone who reads the letters of these two would never doubt their maturity nor their ability to make a success of a marriage, even at their young ages.

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June 2, 1945

Dart has been re-reading Dot’s May 12th letter in which she mentions her desire for a heart-to-heart chat. He has more thoughts on the subject, and proceeds to write a letter very much like one an engaged man would write to his fiance. Of course, in his heart, he is as committed to Dot as if they were already married, even before he’s received her response to his proposal.

He thinks it’s good to have these heart-to-hearts. In thinking about her letter, he realizes that all she really needs is a little more self-assurance. He sets out to give her some.

He writes that all of her letters have always shown good taste and level-headed thinking in all matters. “You seem to know just where I need a mild restraint, or a gentle shove, and you administer it in just the right way.”

Then follows his idea that if someone thinks another person has good taste and clear thinking, it’s because that taste and thinking is quite similar to their own. “The point I’m trying to make is that we must be very nearly equal in our philosophies, our tastes, our methods of thinking, and desires, because each of us has a high opinion of those things in the other.”

He apologizes again for showing such disapproval of the two means Dot suggested for “doing something,” or “being somebody.” His thinking was all wrong about both the WAVEs and the Cadet Nursing Corps.

She has written recently that her dreams caused her to squeeze her pillow so tightly that, if that had been Dart she was squeezing, she would have broken his ribs. He assures her that he can squeeze pretty hard himself, and welcomes the opportunity to show her just how hard.

His parents like the idea of the two of them building a house together – and all that implies. They want them to build it in Ohio, so he’s glad that’s what Dot wants, too.  He asks if Dot might be able to add a penny or two every now and then to the piggy bank. He’s only drawing down about $10 per month from his pay check, leaving the rest to add up in the bank. When he’s out of the Navy, his life insurance can be converted to cash and added to the total. He’s been studying the benefits of the GI Bill and sees that by the war’s end, he will have qualified for enough education benefits to finish college. There are also home loan benefits, and additional compensation for married men. He supposes she can put that war bond in his name, but he really thinks they should be married before they make a practice of such things. Still, the house should be in her name. He thinks that’s the usual practice, so if the husband’s business fails, or something else drastic happens, the house is safe.

Then he asks if she has spoken to her parents about what he asked in his recent letter. He’d like to know what he needs to do to clear the way for their official engagement. He’d like to take the necessary steps now so that by the time his next leave comes, there will be no impediments to their announcing their plans to the world. He sounds pretty sure of her answer, and rightfully so.

That’s all he has time for now, but he sends his love, of course.

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Dot has taken a long tome to get around to writing, and now she’ll take a long time to actually write. This letter spans three days.

Her cousin Jane just dropped by to see Dot at work. She’s home for the summer now, having spent the last week with her eldest sister and meeting her new nephew. Jane’s mother says she hasn’t stopped talking since she arrived home.

On June 3rd, Dot writes that she and Janie went out last night to see “The Affairs of Susan,” with Joan Fontaine, George Brent and Walter Abel. “No, we didn’t go with them, but they were in it,” she quipped. “The more I see Walter Abel, the more he reminds me of your dad.”

About that long letter she said she was going to write: She thought about it for a long time, and the more she thought, the less important it seemed to be. She did, however, tell him part of what was on her mind when she told him about Jamey, the aggressive Spanish friend of Harriet’s. She’s been thinking a lot about why some people have such low standards of behavior. She realized, once again, how lucky she was to know and to love Dart, and she wishes she’d never met Jamey or his type.

She’s never heard back from Dart’s brother Burke, but she knows he must be extremely busy with graduation activities. She’s sending him a little “gag gift,” which he probably won’t like. She found a baker’s hat that matches an apron Burke wears when he’s cooking at home. The apron says “Momma’s Little Helper” across the front. The hat Dot found says “Sloppy Joe Himself” on the band.

Now Dot has every right to demand Dart’s respect at all times. She has just made the grade of sergeant. “Now, don’t get excited. I haven’t joined the WACS!” She explains that she’s earned that rank in the war bond contest at work.

As she writes, El and Betty are downstairs rearranging their bedroom furniture. Dot thinks it looked better the old way, but they’re trying to get their beds closer to the windows, in case it ever gets warm this summer. Today, it’s only 50 degrees outside, and even colder in the house. She and Janie were supposed to go to the beach today, but that’s out of the question. Dot fears that Long Island Sound may freeze over again. She imagines that Lake Sunapee is frigid, and takes a little solace that she won’t be going up there this summer. Next week on her vacation, she and her mother will be visiting family in Massachusetts.

Last night, Dot had another of her crazy dreams about Dart. He was calling her from Nova Scotia, except that he was standing right next to her, wearing snappy civilian clothing. “Do you wonder why I wake up tired so often? It’s because I spend all my nights talking with you….Every once in a while, I wonder how I spent my time when I didn’t dream about you. Must have spent it wishing I had someone like you to dream about.”

This morning, when she had legitimate reason to sleep until noon, she was awake at 7:30. Not long after that, she rushed downstairs, hoping to find a letter from Dart. No luck in that regard, but she did get another letter from his buddy, Fred. She says he writes almost as well as Dart and she’s happy to read about his hopes for the future and his thoughts on family life. She thinks he and Dart must be very much alike.

She’ll mail this letter on her way across town today, and try to think of more nonsense to write about tonight.

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June 3, 1945

Today Dart is responding to Dot’s letter in which she expressed concern that Fred would judge her harshly from her letter to him. She was self-conscience about her grammar and spelling when he is such a master of the craft of writing.

Dart says, “Fred realizes many things, among which is the fact that not all people have the elusive aptitudes which provide good spelling and grammar. As for me, I’ve never found a bit of fault with your grammar, and when you do misspell a word, you do it exactly as I would if I were doing the spelling of the word for the first time. You spell the words the way they’re pronounced by most people, which appears to me to be a most sensible way of spelling.”

How I love that smooth and gracious way he has of reassuring her! He’s right, of course, that an aptitude for the mechanics of language is  elusive, and, I would suggest, even random. And he’s giving a nod to one of her most appealing traits – her sensibility. While some men may use their silver tongues and glib manner to seduce or persuade, Dart uses his gifts in a kind and supportive effort.

He’s sorry she doesn’t feel free to join her family in the occasional ice cream eating spree. “You know, I never have to be afraid I’ll gain weight. I guess the only place I’ll ever be fat is in the head. At least I know they call me ‘fathead’ already.” Once again, he gently brushes her insecurities away, making her perceived overweight just the flip side of his skinniness, and poking fun at himself in the process.

He assures her that he’s thought several times about fulfulling her request to write to Nancy, but he hasn’t taken the time. He will not forget, though, and he’ll write to her eventually. He also says his mind is perfectly at ease about the WAVES, except for what may happen to him as a result of what he wrote to Dot. (That offense of “discouraging enlistment in a time of war” thing may still be hanging over his head.

Recalling Dot’s story of Nancy dreaming about him, her says “Boy! When you even have your girl friends dreaming about me, things have really come to a great finale. Let ’em dream, though. I still dream only of you, and the time when Nancy’s and your dreams can come true.”

He tells her that he believes their few precious days together were only a prelude for things to come, “much as the overture to a beautiful opera contains the strains which give hints to the music in the main story. …The war cannot last forever. When it’s over, we can finish our plans and live out that melody which was suggested by our few visits.”

“Goodnight, Dear Dot. I love you always. I wish I could say more, but that’s the simplest, most direct way I could tell you of the feelings I have for you every wakeful hour, every fitful turn I make at night, every time I dream. The words I hope and trust will never die: I love you, Dot.”

And that’s how you write a love letter.

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June 4, 1945

Dart begins this short letter by telling Dot he has selected three of her recent letters to answer tonight.

“Even though you may be cured of your lack of talkativeness, there are times when silence is a definite virtue. Just between us, what could you say in response to what I told you in the car that Wednesday? What does one say to things like that? I was satisfied with the way things were going. I remember those moments very, very well, Dot.” It really makes me curious about just what he said!

Now it’s his turn to rememeber the phone call he made to his home from Great Lakes last May 4. He was so glad that Dot was there, getting to know his parents. “That phone call was a grand thing for an ailing  morale.”

He understands how a year can seem like a long time to have accomplished nothing,  but Dot should not be too hard on herself. He feels his only accomplishments for his three years since graduating from Shaw were earning money for his year and a half of education, and falling in love with Dot. “I have yet to make my mark in the World. I even still must find the proper niche for that mark to be ensconced in for full effect. …When I come back, we can work out our future together.”

In response to a question she posed, he writes “Silly girl! You ask if any of the stuff I work on is pictured in that magazine clipping I sent you. Do you think I could answer a question like that without having my letter look like a bad attempt at paper dolls?” He explains that destoyers, affectionately called “tin cans,” or just “cans” do look big up against some of the tiny ships in the fleet, “But compared to a battleship or a carrier, a can is a pitifully small bit of metal.”

He comments about a pleasant customer Dot mentioned recently and recalls how much nicer a job is when one has pleasant people to work with. He also asks how her driving lessons are going.

That’s all he has time or energy for tonight. “See, no amount of love can do everything.”

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Dot squeezes alot into her two pages. She received Dart’s letter written on May 24. It was postmarked May 26 and arrived in Greenwich on June 4. Not bad! I hope that means his masterpiece written on the 26th arrives very soon.

She’s glad the Easter snapshot she sent made such a hit with him. In turn, she’d happily accept as many photos of himself has he’s able to send her.

Perhaps the reason she’s in love with a “rawboned sailor” is because she’s jealous of his rawbones. She observes that people often want most what they cannot have, and she jokes that she certainly has no raw bones.

When he spoke of sharing each other’s fun and hardships, it reminded her of a movie she saw a long time ago called “Roughly Speaking.” Starring Rosalind Russell and Jack Carson, it told the story of a couple, who in spite of many hardships and trials were able to stick together and laugh at their troubles. With wisdom that belies her age, Dot says. “In my opinion (which is worth little) one can pretty much tell what sort of stuff a person is made of by the way they take hardships and disappointments. I’m ‘fraid I’m weak in that respect, but I’m sure it’ll be much easier when I have you to face them with me.” I’ve always thought that one of the things that impressed Dot the most about Dart and cemented their early relationship was the way he managed his seemingly endless run of bad medical news duing all those months at Great Lakes Naval Hospital. She has shown a similar degree of spunk and positive outlook in the face of setbacks.

Okay, she accepts his bargain. He gets her and she gets him. The two of them together. In true Dot style, however, she must say that she thinks he’s getting the raw end of the deal.

It’s time to be on the lookout for June’s full moon. By this time next month, Dart will have been at sea for six months. She implores him not to say that there might be 15 more months to get through! She’s already showing signs of turning gray.

If it stops raining, she, Janie and Nancy are planning a trip to Playland tomorrow. She describes it as “Euclid Beach of the East.”

Her closing line, “I love you my Darling, come home soon,” got me thinking. They write all the time about being together, about his homecoming, about how hard this separation is for both of them. But Dart’s home is in Cleveland, Ohio and Dot’s is several hundred miles away in Greenwich, Connecticut. I’m sure it will be a relief to have him “home” in the USA, out of harm’s way, but they’re unlikely to actually see each other any more than they do now, with him in the south seas. It’ll be interesting to see how they weather that challenge.

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June 5, 1945

Dot’s one-page note is full of talk of her Massachusetts relatives she’s going to see tomorrow. She’ll be spending her vacation up on their farm, seeing them for the first time since she left for Andrews several years ago. This will also be her first visit since the tragic death of her Uncle Carl in a train accident on the eve of her graduation.

She’s quite eager to see Dart’s “double,” her cousin Waddy. He received a medical discharge from the Navy and was married recently.  His wife is expecting their first child.

Waddy’s younger brother David will also be there. He was 12 the last time she saw him and has now joined the Navy, due to leave any day.

She dreads the thought of living without mail for the six days that she’s gone, but El promises to forward any letters that arrive from Dart. You and I, dear Reader, know that means a delay in the delivery of a very important letter from Dart.

She’ll try to write often while she’s away.

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June 6, 1945

Dart’s letter is a long six pages because he has so much to write about, plus he must answer five letters that arrived today from his favorite girl. “There’s much in your letters to which an immediate reply is necessary, for letters are quite perishable items.” (To that, I would add, the window for meaningful replies may be small, but their value as family artifacts is quite enduring.)

First, Frank Steinbruegge, who was reported killed in action is very much alive! Newspapers failed to print a correction when the War department sent out the announcement of its error. He wasn’t even wounded! Now, that the war in Europe is over, he’s on his way to the South Pacific, without even any leave. “Truly a miracle. He didn’t play his aces after all!”

More good news! A call came to the Haggard today for enlistees into the V-12 unit. Dart inquired about his eligibility if he applied as a deck officer instead of an engineer. The man in charge said his chances were very good. There’s one small hitch, however – he’s 15  shy of the required number of sea duty days and must wait until fall to apply.

He just received word that Burke is in the Navy, awaiting a call. If he gets through boot camp and then completes his specialty school, there’s a very good chance he’ll still be in the USA when the war against Japan is over. Dart’s relieved he wasn’t drafted by the Army.

There’s also word from home that John Angel and Sally Brown are to be married this month.

In spite of his tall tale in a recent letter about gambling with the boys, Dart affirms that he has not, nor will he ever, take up gambling in any form. Neither will he ever join the US Navy regulars, as he had joked about. “It won’t happen as long as I’m sober, and I don’t drink.”

He’s glad Dot liked the snapshot he sent of himself and he’s thrilled with the graduation photo of her. “I’m looking forward to when we can have some more taken together.”

“I wish I hadn’t said what I did, or hadn’t believed the stuff I did about the Cadet Nurse Corps. I know enough now, I hope, to keep my big pen still on things I don’t have the straight dope on.”

He reveals that a big wish of his is to replay the scene at the top of the stairs at Dot’s house, over and over again. How she surprised him that night with her ardor, but what a pleasant surprise it was. The other staircase scene at his house is another favorite he’d like another chance to play. He wonders how many times he kissed her after she told him then that he needn’t ask for permission to do so again because she had no intention of ever kissing anyone else. “Incidents like that occur only once – the first time. After that, there are other memorable firsts, too. Dot Darling, I’m so lonesome for you!”

He writes a beautiful paragraph about the same car ride Dot recalled in a recent letter.”That was a Heavenly ride, Angel. The streets were paved with gold and pearls, and there were ethereal choruses singing beautiful music in our ears. After we’re a few years older, the endless-seeming period until we can do that again, and always, will seem very short. But while we’re living through our months of waiting, it will seem an eternity. I was so very much in love with you that night (and was before, and still am) that I was afraid to stop the car and tell you. Boy, was I a silly-feeling sailor when the car stopped by itself, and gave me a chance.”

He reports that his job in the mess is getting better. He’s learned how to get along with the boys who work there, so it’s all okay.

He enjoyed the article about her father printed in Readers Digest.  He wonders if the June issue will ever make it to him.

He wishes Dot could take up his mother’s offer to visit them in Cleveland. He knows they’ll be very lonely once Burke leaves home. Before signing off, he tells her that he still is getting new ideas for their house plan. Also, he does understand what she means about loving someone so very much. “I’m learning that by experience, and it’s wonderful, even though it’s marred by time and distance.”

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Since Dot arrived in Pittsfield, Massachusetts at 2:00 this afternoon, she has washed an entire set of dishes, mowed her aunt’s lawn, walked a mile and a half to do some shopping, visited some old friends she knew when she lived here 17 years ago, and seen a Sonja Henie movie called “It’s a Pleasure.” Phew! She’s squeezing an entire vacation into one day.

“Tomorrow we’re going to Hinsdale, 10 miles away, to spend the rest of our time with Aunt Num (Uncle Carl’s widow) and her ‘brood.’ That’s when I’ll see Waddy, and believe me, I’ll be thinking of you the whole time. Everyone’s who’s seen your picture today, before I mentioned anything about it, asked me if it was Waddy. See, I’m not the only one who thinks you look like him.”

The movie today had no plot but it was filmed in Technicolor, and Dot could watch Sonja skate for hours. Sonja and her husband are “neighbors” of Dot’s in Greenwich.

She’d like to write more, but she’s sharing a bedroom with an elderly woman who drove her and Ruth up here, and that nice lady would like to get some sleep.

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June 7, 1945

Dot is loving her time in a real “hick” town of Hinsdale. It has 1,300 people and four stores.

She visited her cousin Waddy and his 19-year old bride at their sweet apartment across the street from his mother’s house. Even Waddy’s young bride sees his resemblance to Dart. Dot is amazed that the two men not only look alike, but both were in the Navy, assigned to destroyers and both want to be journalists.

In addition to his full-time job of helping to run his late father’s feed and grain store, Waddy also writes a daily column for the Pittsfield Republican. Today while he hammered out his column on the typewriter, Dot mowed his mother’s lawn. Her reward: three blisters.

She’s disppointed she won’t see her cousin Janet on this trip. She’s home from college for the summer, but is at a friend’s engagement party all weekend and won’t be home until after Dot returns to Greenwich. Dot’s sorry she’ll miss seeing the cousin, whom she likes very much.She tells Dart that this whole branch of the family is “unusually wonderful,” like yours.

A phone call home today revealed that Dot received four letters from Dart, which El has forwarded up to Hinsdale. She can’t wait to get them. “Those four letters will mean a great deal, Dart, as does everything you do. Thanks more than I can say for being such a wonderful guy. As a matter of fact, thanks for ‘being’.”

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June 8, 1945

Here’s a short and slightly disgruntled letter from Dart in answer to the month old letter he received from Dot today. It was the one she wrote on V-E Day, and shared many on the sentiments they both experienced that day.

He wrote a letter last night that will never be mailed. He says there was nothing about it that made it worth sending. The lull in the mail is a big strain for both of them. When no mail leaves the ship, there is also no mail coming aboard, so both of them experience the same lull.  “Oh well, Dot. Never fear. Someday it will end and mail will become regular again and then, I hope, there’ll be no need of the mailman’s aid in our lovemaking.”

Nothing left to say except that he loves her.

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Well, Dot finally got the letter in which Dart spelled out so beautifully why they are a perfect match, and in a surprise move, asked if they might announce their engagement on his next leave. Says Dot, “I shant attempt to discuss further my feelings toward me and yours toward you. Thank you for the nice things you said and for your faith in me. I shall say nothing more that might discombobulate this perfect match. But if you ever regret meeting me, don’t say I didn’t warn you.”

She goes on to say that the last page of his masterpiece letter totally surprised her. “I haven’t dared hope you’d want to become engaged for a long time. Of course, I’ve had my dreams on the subject.”

“Unfortunately, Mother is spending the day in Pittsfield, so I won’t have the chance to discuss it with her until tomorrow. I know she will approve, but there are many things I’d like to talk over with her before I give the final ‘yes.'”

She talks about wanting him to be sure. She believes too many people take engagements far too lightly, like buying a dress, bringing it home, and then finding one they like better and returning the first one. She plans to be engaged just once and follow it up in due course with a single marriage.

She very much wants to have that little house with him, and the family to put in it. She’ll write more tomorrow.

Her Aunt Num just stuck her head into Dot’s room and said to send her love to Dart. Although they’ve never met, Num has heard all the reviews of Dart from the rest of the family and knows he’s a fine man. Dot tells him that with the love and respect he already has from her entire clan, they should do quite well.

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June 9, 1945

Dart is overwhelmed by a deluge of letters – a pile so huge he claims he can barely climb over them on his way to dinner. When the mail lull is over, it’s over in a big way!

Included in  one of the many letters from Dot was a full-length photo of her in her Easter garb, including the corsage sent by Dart. She looks beautiful and he loves the photo. He makes a nice comment about her hat and surmises that it matches her scarf. (Black and white photo, you know.) “I think you have good taste in clothes, Dot. You wear them well, too. Another of the ‘reasons’ you asked for a week or so ago.”

Her letters, as well as those from his Mom and Pop, describe the national feeling at the death of FDR. He hopes the apathy with which they heard the news at sea is not permanent. “To be sure, we all felt bereaved and profoundly sorry to lose our Chief, but work went on as usual. I’m sorry he couldn’t have lived to see V-E Day and the V-J Day of the future.” It struck me in this paragraph that FDR was somewhat akin to a modern-day Moses as he lead his people against a terrible scurge, yet didn’t live long enough to enter the Promised Land himself.

Dart will speak to his crewmate Hal Martin about Sunapee locations. He’s already sold on the idea of this place he hasn’t seen as the ideal honeymoon spot – on the condition that Dot is the other half of the couple. He’d also like a chance to scope out the scene before they’re married.

He liked her description of the place she and Nancy found for their picnic on April 14. He’d like to have a picnic with her sometime at that very spot. “Until then, Darling, I’ll walk alone. The time must come sometime when we can be together again for a while. The time after that, I hope and pray, will be permanent.”

He likes to hear about her driving practice and hopes she gets her license for her birthday. “Isn’t it fun, once you get over being scared? I love to drive.” Both of my parents were excellent drives, and loved to do it, a trait they passed on to all their children.

Addressing some more of her news from the letters, he says he’d love to see “National Velvet” and he wants to hear her sing in the church choir. “Ge whiz, Dot. It’ll take forever (I hope) for us to do all the things we want to.”

He talks about her suggestion that they could go to school and work while they’re married. He says he’d like to have a long conversation about that with her. He knows it’s possible, but it’s also hard work and a big strain. He thinks they could do it.

There follows a sweet, tender paragraph that underscores the youth of these two kids in love. “What’s this about your being glad I’m not smart about something? If it’s what I think it is, you’re right, and I’ll wait till I can learn what it is, and all about it, from you. That’s what I’ve wanted for a long, long time. Dot, we have everything to look forward to in our lives together.” Both of these young people are completely innocent in the art of love, yet each is confident they can discover all there is to know from each other.

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June 10, 1945

Dart’s one-page letters begins with the hope that Dot’s mother will forgive him if he delays answering her letter a little longer. He’d like to wait until he has heard from Dot regarding the announcement of their engagement during his next leave in the States. I suspect that he spends most of his days awaiting word from Dot about that all-important event.

Although the ship was on a holiday schedule today, that didn’t include the mess crew. They still had to prepare and serve meals and clean up afterwards. They didn’t finish until late evening.

He got a “tremendous kick” out of the letter Dot wrote on April 22, although there’s really nothing to answer in it. There’s just one thing she asked for his approval about, and he is happy to grant it.  She has his blessing to sign up as first baseman for the Brooklyn Dodgers, if her father agrees to it. (It’s a little sad that with all the progress women have made in 70 years, it would still be laughable to think of a woman signing on with a Major League Baseball team.) He agrees with her that there aren’t enough hours in the week and suggests that they could be rationed like other shortages.

He’s out of time for tonight because he has spent too much time dreaming about the two of them and reading her April letters.

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